Another benefit of GAL is it helps you to realize that your H is NOT your life. He's just a part of it. By the time you fully embrace GAL, if he decides to come back you'll be in a much better position to ask yourself if you even really want him back, and to lay out the requirements you expect of him before you'll consider recon.
THIS is so spot on. I started GAL prior to asking H for a temporary separation. I'm in a pretty good frame of mind now, and have discovered so much about myself, and come to realize how much H was not giving me for years on an emotional level, out of old patterns and now I believe because he's not capable until he does a lot of work on himself. I am formulating a mental list of all the requirements for trying to reconcile. 6 months ago I was giving up everything I needed in my pursuit of him just try to stay married. Now I'm changing into a better version of me, and like I told him, I will do so with or without him in my life.
