Unsure what's next, what to do.....

[SteveLW]

I am just hoping and praying that she can tear down the walls she has guarded herself with and start thinking and speaking with logic instead of emotions.

W,

The main reason we end up here is because we don't understand woman and they don't understand us. As men we think using logic and reason. If I get divorced I will lose half the time with my kids, half my assets, if I ever get married again it will be a blended family which will be very hard and stressful.

A woman thinks with her emotions. I am not happy right now, the only way I can be happy is if I get rid of W. He is preventing me from my happiness. It has to be him what else could it be?

Now on the plus side when you think with logic that never changes. However, when you think with emotions that changes. How you feel today is not necessarily how you are going to feel in the future.

The point is, don't hold your breath that she is going to be thinking logically anytime soon. Women are just not built that way. That is why woman file for D 80% of the time.

So true. I will add that along with your main reason we end up here is that logic and reason aren't working with this emotional creature and I have no where else to turn. The alternative is insanity (doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result). Which always amazes me when a guy ends up here, saying "nothing I am doing (logic and reasoN) are working". And then they spend the next few weeks bucking everything they are learning about DBing.

Arthur Conan Doyle said: "Once you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, no matter how improbable, must be the truth."

Logic and reason in our sitches are impossible. That leaves DBing to remain, which though improbable is the only way forward.