Unsure what's next, what to do.....

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I am just hoping and praying that she can tear down the walls she has guarded herself with and start thinking and speaking with logic instead of emotions.

W,

The main reason we end up here is because we don't understand woman and they don't understand us. As men we think using logic and reason. If I get divorced I will lose half the time with my kids, half my assets, if I ever get married again it will be a blended family which will be very hard and stressful.

A woman thinks with her emotions. I am not happy right now, the only way I can be happy is if I get rid of W. He is preventing me from my happiness. It has to be him what else could it be?

Now on the plus side when you think with logic that never changes. However, when you think with emotions that changes. How you feel today is not necessarily how you are going to feel in the future.

The point is, don't hold your breath that she is going to be thinking logically anytime soon. Women are just not built that way. That is why woman file for D 80% of the time.

LH, thanks so much. That makes a ton of sense.

Does anyone have any suggestions for the question I posted previously about my 180s sort of conflicting with the DB approach? She tells me I've never been there for her emotionally that we've never had that emotional connection, etc. If I keep distancing and detaching I fear that that will only confirm her fears that I can not change. I realize the change is for me, especially the detaching. However, I think most of us here realize that even though the DBs and changes we are instituting in ourselves are, ultimately, for us, we also hold out hope that they will also lead to R. That is my case anyway. I'm just looking for suggestions on how to implement not only my 180s but also continue proper DB techniques that will help me become stronger and prepare myself for what appears to me the road headed for D.