Yesterday's development: Came home from work yesterday--within 10 minutes fighting again. He threw away a bill for life insurance. When I mentioned to him that it was a bill (we get a lot of junk from this company, and I acknowledged that) he launched into a tirade about how I had cancelled his insurance, years ago, and had to get it back after he was mad at me. I did not remember this (and still don't) and said so. He kept going, so I got up to leave. Then lobbed at me that I had called him feeble (not so), incompetent (not so) and that something was wrong with him (semi-true: I said that I thought that he might be going through some kind of crisis). I finally caved on the way upstairs and said that I would appreciate a compliment from him now and then, and that he was being unkind.
He did not sleep in our bed last night (or the previous two, part of arguing that he admitted was "picking a fight." I'm not sure how much longer I can take this. I've read Michelle's books, and I am familiar with most of it, but his EA is where he spends most of his time. He even said "you did say feeble. I'll check with Dani (his ea)." I responded that I didn't care what Dani thought. He also said "why is it that I am only mad at you. That you are the only one that I treat like this?" I responded that I am the closest target, and the only one living with him. He responded "No. I think that this is you."
I am wondering how I can do a last resort with someone picking at me all of the time?
