A new mindset for Burned. This is thread 7.

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Thanks for the feedback. I'm hoping the books I ordered will have more ideas like this. I think I got a little ahead of myself trying to develop a framework with sub-goals and sub-sub-goals. Keep it simple.

Something I'm learning from this is something that is excruciatingly hard to stomach, which is that pretty much my entire life I've lived to "serve" others. I have always waited to be told what to do, and then do it as best I can so that I get a prize. It's pretty bad. W was probably tired of having to be the one to say, "Hey, how about today you do such and such." So "taking ownership of my life" is going to be fairly difficult because I'm up against some seriously deep-seated personality traits. Ick.

But that can't really stop me, I guess. I don't have any other choice (except to find another mother and repeat the whole process, nope).