D14’s IC session yesterday, nothing much has changed. D14 and WW still not talking. again, told WW in front of IC, “you already know why D14 won’t talk to you, you know what to do.” anyways, before that, IC spoke to WW by herself, when they got done, i was let in and WW still in tears. gave her son kleenex.
again, D14 has already concluded that WW isn’t going to turn around. she is set on her ways. Hence, D14 doesn’t want to rebuild the R with her, she feels that WW is going to leave her anyway.
D14 is just protecting herself too. What a sad situation. I know you are there for her. Keep doing that. We, the waywards, are f@cked people sometimes, don´t expect sanity on us. We are nuts!
D14 is just protecting herself too. What a sad situation. I know you are there for her. Keep doing that. We, the waywards, are f@cked people sometimes, don´t expect sanity on us. We are nuts!
Went to see IC this afternoon. still encouraging me to ask WW to sit down with a couples counselor to discuss what WW really wants out of the whole sitch. really haven’t communicated with WW about anything except D14 and finances. told IC, i am in a better place, i have accepted the reality that my M is dead. IC then asked about recon, so i told him if she comes back, i would to say no, i would first have to see changes within her. i will not subject D14 to another roller coaster ride. IC, agrees with me regarding this part. he’s still insistent on sitting down with WW with a CC present. kinda in limbo with this one.
Hi T. Here is when DB and some of IC advices diverge....Your W has a lot of work to do by herself. But she must want to do that first. Imho there´s no need for any of that.
Hi T. Here is when DB and some of IC advices diverge....Your W has a lot of work to do by herself. But she must want to do that first. Imho there´s no need for any of that.
Keep moving forward and protecting D14. Keep DB.
thanks again for chiming in nef.
i know what to do on my part, keep DBing,move forward, and i think these have been a second instinct for me. but what puts me on hold sometimes, is when IC mentions that am hurting D14’s life by her not having an R with WW. suggesting things like having a short convo with WW on how she can gain D14’s trust or if i can’t, we can do what was mentioned above, we can both talk to a CC.
whatever i do, I always think about the consequences of what my actions would do to D14. really hoping am not hurting her. no matter what would be the outcome of my sitch, would be a great achievement if D14 comes out of this as a better, stronger person.
hey toe, I've been following your sitch from a distance. I want to let you know that my S16 would tell me he feels broken, he missed a lot of school last year, almost failing one subject. To his credit he made the honor roll. I too hope thru all this crap that we both emerge better. Keep your focus on your D and your own well being. Stay positive!!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
hey toe, I've been following your sitch from a distance. I want to let you know that my S16 would tell me he feels broken, he missed a lot of school last year, almost failing one subject. To his credit he made the honor roll. I too hope thru all this crap that we both emerge better. Keep your focus on your D and your own well being. Stay positive!!
thanks for the encouragement tf. you be strong and positive as well. both our kids need a stable, rational parent right now.
