“we’ve never had that connection or that best of friends relationship.”
Is this true, or just her current belief?
Hard to say.....there might be some truth to it from her POV but I’ve thought of her as my best friend and I’ve come to her in vulnerable, emotional states when I’ve told her quite a few times over the past couple years that I wasn’t feeling as though she was speaking to my love language. I think she is maybe over exaggerating the extent of the “disconnect”.
Another theme in her thoughts today was she is tired of me “manipulating” or controlling her feelings. She said anytime we talk she ends up agreeing to my feelings or thoughts instead of her own. I wanted to state that while that wasn’t my intention and that is more her perception. If she has different thoughts and feelings and didn’t express them to me, I can’t read minds. So, if she was reluctantly agreed with me, she should have told me she was feeling otherwise. Again, if her mindset was she didn’t feel comfortable expressing those feelings, I understand that but at some point I feel as though you are at fault for allowing your thoughts to be manipulated or controlled by someone else if you never express otherwise. I didn’t say any of that, obviously, but it was what I was thinking! Instead I tried to validate.
M: 34 W:34 D:7 D:6 S:3
M: 9.5 years T: 12
OM found & BD (by me): 9/19/18 IHS begins W informs me she's moving out: 11/28/18 W files: 12/21/18 D Final: 2/25/19
