Unsure what's next, what to do.....

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Also, towards the end of the session her therapist asked her what are her feelings right now. The IC wondered if she was leaning one way or another or just unsure and her response was “right now I don’t see the point of working on it. It gives me so much anxiety to think about trying to work on our marriage. I can’t deny that I’ve not had any strong feelings within the past month to Reconcile and this time apart has felt as if a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.”


So here’s a question I’m struggling with....throughout the whole session her constant underlying theme seemed to be that I didn’t come to her with feelings and/or she never felt comfortable or “safe” coming to me with any feelings. Her exact words were “we’ve never had that connection or that best of friends relationship.” This mindset (from what she’s accusing me of) are basically exactly what the DBs techniques are. So, how do I do my own 180s when they would be directly opposite of the DB techniques?