Well, here I am again. H was at a training (the one where he had hoped to fly his "friend" out--she didn't come. He was lovely during all of that time, and asked if I would have lunch with him yesterday. I said yes, and it was clear from the get go that he was irritated. Mad during the entire lunch--later I asked "we were fine for five days--you told me that I had nothing to worry about and that we both want to save the marriage--relax." To that he replied: I guess that just the sight of you makes me mad. Ouch. Lots of insults after that--I almost threw in the towel right then and there.
W"Really. Tell me more. Why does the sight of me make you mad?" H"Bla bla bla"
or "I am sorry you feel that way."
or "I am sorry you feel the need to blame me for your emotions." "It must be hard having someone else controlling your emotions. I will leave you alone so you can be happy"
