You may not be an Avoidant - although if your ex was really a Love Addict, they often end up with Avoidants because they're the only ones willing to pursue the Avoidants that hard.
You may also just be prudent and encountering a lot of Clingons. Some women can be very needy and dependent, I won't deny that, and if those are the women you're cool to, there's nothing inherently wrong with that.
I'm not an Avoidant or an Love Addict, but in my old age, I find myself loving differently. Not sure I have it in me to be romantically infatuated or swept off my feet any more. I want someone stable, who appreciates me as I am, is intellectually stimulating, and at least reasonably good in bed. Speaking my love languages is a plus. If they share my sense of humor all the better. But I lost my rose colored glasses and don't really NEED someone, just like having the companionship.
