There was a point in my life when a lot of difficult things happened for me (family deaths, court case against an ex work colleague, lost a job I had done for a long time and really loved, plus others), and XH was just not there for me, to give me any support. He just sort of disappeared, emotionally. In fact, it was shortly after that they As started.
I can't remember if it was you or someone else who asked me about LA and addiction being related. I again very strongly believe that what you are seeing when an addict cannot be there for family or for you when bad things happen is a function of addiction. LA for all I know may do the same but a hallmark of addiction is the booze or the drug comes before anything and everything else. I "think" I've been a LA much of my life but it was only when I was addicted to opioids that I failed to visit my wife in the hospital when she had a one night admission. I still feel bad about that to this day. It's something I never did before and never would do now that I'm clean and sober - yet in full blown addiction it wasn't even an afterthought - my addiction kept me at home with my drugs rather than visit her. That happened clearly because of addiction NOT love avoidant behavior and would never happen today - never.
KML perhaps you'll feel differently but I think addictive behaviors in this care are being confused for LA.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
