Yup...that could be it LH. I really was fed up. It's like you come here to basically hint around that you want to spend time with me for the Halloween season...well it's not happening until the elephant in the room is addressed. I basically told her it's so pathetically obvious that she should not be wasting time dating and instead put that energy into her and I getting back together. That this hanging out crap was just stupid. That's it's obvious you can't go two weeks without me now. So you could be right. All I know is she had plans to try and get me and her to hang out for Halloween well before she got to my work. Just the way she brought up the pumpkins and explained what her plan was (where we would buy them, etc) demonstrated to me that she had this planned out.
It was one of those "I was thinking that we could..." kind of things. Not something she thought up right then and therem it's like she told herself if I get him to see the movie with me then maybe I'll ask him to carve pumpkins another day too.
She had a plan for sure.

Oh and there's no going back on my word because the minute she starts opposing me and possible R is the moment I'm basically going to tell her then we don't hang out anymore. Go on with your life because I can never truly be just your friend. It's romantic or it's nothing. However as I said something tells me she's not going to oppose me but who knows...only time will tell and all that matters is I have a solid plan of action in either case. I am prepared to walk forever if need be.

Last edited by ItHurts; 10/15/18 06:24 PM.
ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14