I think your H tries to tell you about this stuff because regardless of where he is at with the marriage, you are/were his best friend, and you have consistently been that for the entirety of your marriage. This is the part of your relationship he has taken for granted... and devalued... for all those years. This is the case with my H too. When I see him, he is dying to tell me all of the stuff that has happened to him, etc... like one would a best friend. I struggle with that. Detaching... being open...being friendly but not too friendly... It is a hard line to walk. I do not want my H to cake eat and, at the same time, being distant and cordial feels a bit like punishing him... at least that is what it would feel like to him. If anyone has the perfect "recipe" for this...I would love to know it. Personally... I think you are doing exceedingly well considering how long this man has been a part of your life. You, Yorkie, are no one's victim and I have no doubt there will come a day when your H looks back on this and realizes just how much he gave up. Trust me... if there is already this much trouble in OW land, it is only going to get worse. Continue to take care of you. (((HUGS)))
