Having no hopes/expectations are healthiest for me. The times I've had the slightest hope/expectation, it's been fool's gold (cheeseless hole). Without hope/expectation my main motivation has been to improve myself for my girls and my next partner. However, a part of me is motivated to be so attractive and such a great father that the W regrets her decision. I know this likely isn't healthy, but I'm just being honest.
