Whilst it is impossible for my kids to not be effected, I think they are coping as well as can be expected. To give my H his due, he has maintained (and in deed made a concerted effort to build) a loving bond with them as he did pre BD. We are both committed to our children. My H won't engage in conversations with them about why he left (any more than he will with me) but he gives them love and affection. When he left he told them "mummy and daddy need some time apart because we fight so much" (which was bull) and he said he might come home if we can work things out. He has never told them any different.
Something rather strange that I left off my update earlier. When we were discussing parking, my H offered to let me use the car space at his flat (when he isn't using it). He said he would let me know the days he is away. He then offered to let me put a note up around his block of flats to see if anyone wants to rent me their car space. I said "that would be a little too close for comfort" and he said "it isn't ideal, but if you can't find anything else".
