Was she diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder? In that case you’ve got a tough life ahead of you if you want to reconcile. And reconciliation might be impossible with someone who is THAT concerned about her image and how the actions of others affect her impression of herself and her impression of what other people SHOULD think about her. NPD is a trendy diagnosis these days. A real narcissist will be essentially unwilling to change unless it’s worth their while.
On the other hand, then you have the other 95% of humans. We are all selfish to some extent, some people more than others. I think one aspect of the WW is an attitude of, “Nobody was looking out for me so I’m going to look out for myself.”
I’m thinking maybe people with a slightly higher tendency to selfishness or narcissism (my WW comes to mind) are the ones more likely to end up with someone who has NGS. We gravitate to them because we see them as confident, leader-like people and we don’t feel that way about ourselves. They gravitate to us because we serve their needs (we go with the flow that they create). But a NG is a kind of “inverted” narcissist who has many subtle ways of getting what he wants. The perfect recipe for a power struggle.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
