I think the divorce support group is a fabulous idea. A great place to start... to see if you can find a local support network that can give you help in finding good child care, inexpensive get togethers, etc.
(FYI - my mom met her H at a similar church type group and they have been married for over 25yr now... she was only married to my dad for 21yr... :-) )
So.... I like to think of life as chapters in a book. I feel the chapter with the work guy thing as showing that you are out of practice in romantic relations. I get that you had 1 serious relationship prior to your H but the new Nic isn't going to wait for some guy to fall into her lap. The new Nic is going to have a list of must haves and deal breakers. You have a D to look after so the next guy has to be stellar... Nic its going to be more like a long job interview for sure. As I tried to point out earlier you are going to have to put yourself out there and practice, practice, practice. The work guy was you just dipping your toe in the water before jumping in!
You are at a complicated state. You aren't quite ready to throw away your H and not ready to sit and be a spinster with no adult to share your life with. The fact that you are even thinking about future men shows that you are willing to walk away from the current state you are in - that's a good thing.
You need to keep working on sorting your current state of affairs but don't be afraid to put yourself out there. That's why I think a divorce support group thing is fantastic. And, if you get there and this group is full of Debbie Downers... then don't stop... look for another!!!
