So sorry that you find yourself here... after 38 years... I can only imagine how difficult this has been for you. Just want you to know that you are not alone. Life is not over. You WILL get through this and there will be happier days again. Unfortunately, the only way to get past the pain is to go through it. Try to stay busy. Do the things you would advise a friend to do if you they were going through similar things. You can do this Banjohe... one moment, one day at a time. (((HUGS)))