Just wanted to drop by and send you some encouragement. I am a bit like you... further along than I think I should be. I also wonder if it is too soon and maybe I’m fooling myself. My H and I have been quite chatty lately. I am undecided about whether that is a good idea or not. On the one hand, it is good for our kids to see us getting along so well but, on the other hand, it is a lot like cake eating too. Part of me feels like I should be putting up more of a wall but then I would need to act is opposition to who I am as a person. I also get what you say about NC seeming a bit like a game. I feel the same way. This past week I have had a number of conversations with my H that went well but I had decided that I would be as much NC as possible this weekend to balance the scales a bit more, so to speak. But then he texted me first thing this morning with some info that was kind of unnecessary so I answered him. So much for NC.
I think your H notices that you are detaching. There is no way you can have been together as long as you have without him noticing a change. My H and I had a talk the other day and I mentioned that I was starting to get back in touch with who I was before I met him and he said, “Yeah, I’ve noticed!” My H is not the most observant guy in the world when it comes to me. Trust me...your H notices.
If I were you, I would try not to intervene when it comes to your adult children. I think your H needs to figure that out for himself. If he asks for your advice, for sure give it to him. But if he doesn’t, he can figure it out.
Keep doing what you’re doing Yorkie! I think you are doing fantastic!!!
