"Look, I don't want this divorce, you do, and not having enough (whatever) is a consequence of your decision
I guess I'm understand your point without the context.
The rest of your post was marvelous. I really like your calm, thoughtful attitude.
When we were in mediation, and she would say something like "but that's not enough alimony for me to enjoy the same lifestyle I currently have!", my response was spoken calmly and compassionately, "I am offering what the state says is fair. Look, I don't want this divorce, you do. Not having enough money is a consequence of your decision."
"But after the children are emancipated, my alimony will go down, and I won't be able to pay my mortgage." "I'm offering what the state says is fair. Look, I don't want this divorce, you do. Not having enough money is a consequence of your decision."
"You're being so mean. I want more time with the kids." "Look, I don't want this divorce, you do. I want the kids to stay with me just as badly as you do. Not having as much time with the kids is a consequence of your decision."
"But where will I live?" "I don't know. That's for you to decide. I don't want this divorce, you do. Having to figure that out is a consequence of your decision."
Is that good, or do you need more context?
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
