I guess this is piecing

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I sometimes feel like it is needed to keep bonding as long as you can keep the emotions out of it, but it is hard, very hard, although I have gotten better at it.

Ok I agreed with everything until this part. What exactly is bonding if it isn't an emotional connection? If emotions aren't in it, you aren't bonding IMO.

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My last question is can we ever truely move on and detach if we are still engaging in sex? I do admit it is nothing but physical for me and have done my best to block out any emotions connected to it but there always seems to be something there and as long as it is will make my sitch difficult.[/quote]

Probably not. How can you have unemotional sex with your wife in the middle of the most emotional time of your life? Sex releases bonding hormones. That said, if the WAS isn't wayward, I think it sex is great. If the WAS is wayward, just what in the hell are you doing??? (Disclaimer: read my sitch, I have done this and speak from experience).