Unsure what's next, what to do.....

[Wanted1]

Quick question re: my upcoming joint session with W, her IC, my IC and me....

My plan, as I said, is to let her do all the talking and validate, validate, validate. But my question is, if she throws out something like "It doesn't seem like you have cared for me for quite a while?" I'm going to validate her by saying something like "I understand that you feel that way" but can I go a step further and just simple ask if she could provide me with some examples as to why she feels that way or is that taking it too far?

I honestly would like to know for the sake of me maybe not seeing the forest through the trees....but if asking for examples isn't advised I won't