I guess this is piecing

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Did,

Hard to keep up on all the sitches here but saw your response somewhere else and the similarity in our stories. My BD was in May and she has been with OM off and on mostly on since then. I filed, withdrew and basically have in house sep, so we see each other daily. We had a period of 5 or 6 weeks where a quasi R was going on but it was more of a drunken sex fest mid summer that I had a hard time turning down. In July/Aug I decided to put an end to that because I could not detach and set up my own room since mid Aug and am still there.

She has not ended A and will at 2-3 days at a time turn her attention to me and we end up spending a lot of time together including the sex. I know we live in the moment and it is hard but it is usually just hours later that your brain comes to and realizes that this was just a Plan B option.

I was considering setting that boundary about no more sex, but know that would be hard and she knows my weakness.
Just curious if you ever thought of that? I sometimes feel like it is needed to keep bonding as long as you can keep the emotions out of it, but it is hard, very hard, although I have gotten better at it.

My last question is can we ever truely move on and detach if we are still engaging in sex? I do admit it is nothing but physical for me and have done my best to block out any emotions connected to it but there always seems to be something there and as long as it is will make my sitch difficult.