My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 4

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Ovr thanks for all your comments on my thread. I read through this thread of yours. Your W seems as conflicted as mine. But she is current with OM. Mine has been with multiple OM but ive been with OW, we have sold house, moved apart etc... similar W issues, different lives.

Anyway, I think you are doing incredible well. The GAL activities - cooking, hunting etc. Do that more. If you are busy and happy that is attractive. Do what feels good. For me its playing lacrosse, coaching and being around kids and quality people.

Do NOT take the bait with W on her feelings. I know it feels good to hear, so good. But who cares... like your priest said. If shes not committing to work on reconciliation what is there to talk about. The stuff with her coming in the bedroom and watching shows etc... Id think of 2 or 3 one liners to give her. Like are you still having sex or seeing OM, why are you in my bedroom? Are you committing to work on reconciling, why are you in the marital bed? If she wants to talk she can stand up or pull a chair up or whatever.

I would do MC before I was physical with her. Sex is easy as you see in my sitch. And then since you know each other have connection and desire the sex is really good. At least for us.... then it made me re-attach... from personal experience.

I have had the conflicting thoughts about divorcing her, being fed up etc. Im paying a lot of money per month so that feeds into it... but like everyone says, if you dont want to be divorced dont do it.

Do what you would tell me to do. Do not make emotional decisions. Yea Im a lot better at giving advice than following... my NGS is worse than I thought. Im back to DBing... after sleeping with my W 7-8 times in the last couple weeks. I know how frustrating (understatement of a lifetime) it can be.

Good luck, stay strong, ill be reading.