Ovrrnbw, there's still hope in your situation. Since you didn't kick her out or file for divorce, which is totally your call, this could drag on for a while I imagine. Hopefully she'll figure out what she wants before you run out of patience. I feel so sad in all our situations thinking how all these days, weeks, and months we could be living out our dreams, enjoying life with our spouses just like we imagined when we married them, and here were are watching them run around with other people destroying their lives and ours too.
The flip-side of this is that we are improving our lives in ways we never thought possible. Coming to grips with our issues and fixing them instead of using our S to cover up/ignore/brush aside our problems.
