Is it possible that our children our somehow angry with us, as they feel that we are somewhat responsible for "allowing" our spouse to be WS?(your sitch seems different TN) my S and i are close and have a good R, but i sense that he may hold some of my W's actions against me. Just thinking out loud.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof