Yes, I remember being chased in my staright jacket!! that was fun!
If it seems like the board is a bit darker these days it is most likely a reflection of what you are perceiving rather than what others are doing.
Yes, it can seem darker because you are dealing with some serious issues. Heart aching, painful stuff that hurts.
Hurts down to the soul. It is not selfsish to have these feelings. Or to focus on them.
The problem comes when we don't put them into perspective.
Let's face it, the world is full of problems.
People with problems.Serious problems.
Pain and difficulty. Starving and dying!
The challenge is not to feel like we are bad because our problems are not all that important, but to realize if THAT is all we focus on.................then THAT... is all we are.
C'mon now! Truth betold......We are more than that!! We have much more to offer to the world than the fact that our relationships aren't all that great.
We have more to do with our lives than concentrate on what failed relationship is happeneing to us. Who ever said that is all we should be focusing on??
We have feelings.....other felings about other issues besides our lost and wandering spouses!!........and longings...longings to do something with our lives besides being a spouse or parent............and great hands with which to work, give, help, heal, touch, comfort, ........
Instead of focusing on what we can't have............(like our relationships the way we want them) why are we NOT focusing on what we CAN do????????
There are so many things in this world to do that have NOTHING to do with our relationships.
But because we are caught up in the pain of this relationship we don't even see that!!
All we see is what we aren't getting.
Maybe if we focus some on giving somewhere, we would be more fufilled. We would be "getting"............JUST FROM A DIFFERENT PLACE.
Being light hearted does help!!!!!!!!!!!
Focusing on something besides our own problems and failings DOES help.
Exactly my point.......
We NEED .....and it is our human duty....to experience JOY!
If you'll notice we don't sit around waiting for someone to give us this joy!
No one is going to plopit in your lap......like here...here's some fun ...enjoy...
We have to go and seek it.
and give it.....
YOU!!!! were the one who was chasing ME.....remember???..in the straight jacket.
I didn't think of that YOU DID!!
YOU looked for the joy in the moment and FOUND IT!!
We were having fun and it had NOTHING...absolutely NOTHING to do with your realtionship!
There is joy out there, but we have to SEEK it.
We must stop focusing on ourselves and see that there are people out there looking for it too!! and we can be a part of it.......
If you don't know where to start....hell, just volunteer......or go to the nearest rest home........shelter, hospital...they will put you to work and you will be giving joy!! and I guarantee you will FEEL it. You will feel joy!
People are so reluctant to give???!!! "Oh, I can't do that!" "I don't have the time"...or "They don't need me"...or "well that's just not me"....
Well who is it??? who could it be that can understand pain and suffering more???
Do we have problems? yes.
Are we the only ones? heavens no.
And our "problems" ie: We can't get the love we want..... are downright ridiculous when you hold a small body in your arms and he draws his last breath.
It will humble you. It will make you feel like a fool for wasting so much time.
For seeing that you have so much more to give and so much more to offer than just trying to figure out how to get this man to love you the way you want to.
I am not a fool..I know It seems impossible!!! that this is true and it is hard, SO VERY HARD! to do, when you are in pain, To think of giving. When you feel so depleated. But it is one of Life's Mysteries that to get....you have to give.
Maybe we've all been looking at this the wrong way.
We've been perplexed by whay we can't "get".....
What if we focused on giving?
Wouldn't you agree.... that at the very minimum...... it would take our minds off our problems??
It might even make us feel better about ourselves because we are helping someone else.
There is a tremendous amount of extremely and I mean extremely, wonderful people on this board. People with compassion and insight, understanding and sympathy. People who KNOW what pain is and so importantly, can understand without judging.
These are the people who can change the world.
These are the people that this world NEEDS...
You my dear one of them.
You know pain, you know hurt, you know indecision and worry most of all..... you know how to just be there for someone who is in greater need than you at the moment.
You are a friend.
Just because someone........one person.....( your H) doesn't see that.??.....does not mean squat. It means HE can't see YOU.
He just can't, for whatever silly reason, see what you are capable of.......but we here on the board can.
There are billions of people on this planet.
There are millions who need a friend.
Don't miss me!!...Remember,..... I am ALWAYS with you, so you have me there with you.......Love you!
