Unsure what's next, what to do.....

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So, I'm reading the DR book. In this book it seems to me that MWD is speaking to both parties of the marriage and in the beginning sort of suggests that both parties read the book. Should I suggest that my W read it after I'm done? I think Part 1 that talked about D and how most people don't find the comfort or happiness they think they are going to find after a D would maybe shed some light on the negative aspects of going through with a D for my W.

Still have no clue what her thoughts are. Her IC told her that "its OK to continue honoring the space between us and working on ourselves" so she hasn't opened up at all about her feelings to me. We have a joint session with, her, both of our IC and I on Monday and she keeps telling me that the purpose of this session is so that she feels comfortable talking about her feelings, etc. So essentially I'm going in blind, which I guess is what is giving me so much anxiety. On the flip side, I've told my IC and have prepared myself to listen and not share anything unless I'm specifically asked. I plan on validating the whole freaking time. I've said my piece to her so this is her time to open up. I'm going to validate everything she says.

Not sure why she's so hesitant to open up to me. The walls she has put up are freaking tall. I have been calm and cool when I've tried discussing the R topic with her and I've told her multiple times that I understand that they are her feelings and there is no such thing as right or wrong 'feelings'. I've also explained that I am at a point now where I realize that it's more important to understand than be understood which I think is something I have lacked throughout our marriage. Both of us have but I'm not about to open that can of worms. I'm comfortable taking the blame on the communication issues if that means we can at least start the process of trying to make this work in a healthy way for the first time in our M.