My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 4

[ovrrnbw]

Well here's an update I'd like feedback on:

I got home at 8pm last night, W is home, kinda poking around talking. Wants to talk about her counseling session, what's been going on with her, the dog, my grill table. Ok so I listened and validated. She even asked at one point why I always say that. I say "I get how you would feel that way" a lot. I just explained that I'm trying to listen and understand. I even asked her opinion on the table b/c she likes design and is good at it.

Her IC recommended a book on breaking free from manipulation and told her that she has a hard time deciding for herself. W actually got the book. W told me she told her IC that I wasn't "consciously" trying to be mean to her and that I am a good person. Good I guess?

She tried to get in the MB with me last night and I said "what are you doing?". She wants to talk. So I listened. She thanked me, fell asleep a few times and I woke her up. She says how she misses our bed. W gave me a bunch of looks when she finally left the bedroom.

I said how the puppy is a big snuggler, and W said her snuggles are better. I played it off with a joke, and didn't take that bait.

Well this morning she thanks me for talking again, then calls me to say thanks again and make small talk before I bowed out of the convo.

Now I get a text from her saying "I just sometimes get these missing you feelings...hard to explain and I have no control over the feelings".

I guess the proper response is no response. I want to say "hey, crazy, if you miss me then come home". These situations suck.