Husband cheated, left, trying to DB 6

[SteveLW]

Having kind of a weird morning today. Feeling a little down, thoughts of him and OW kind of taking over. Ive been doing really good this week, would really like to continue feeling good. Any words of wisdom? We will be seeing him tonight when he comes over to see D and I just kind of dread it in a way. It gets me a little worked up.

Thanks in advance

Steve,

I just found this, you wrote it on Justsad's posts recently, "Here are what your daily goals should be:

1) Did I get through the day without worrying about what she says and does, and without attaching any expectations to your DBing efforts.
2) That no one filed for D (unless this is what you want, and you can always decide to pull the plug at any moment).
3) That you didn't engage in any pressure or pursuit. In word or deed. That you didn't engage her in a R talk. That you didn't snoop. Etc.
4) That the rest of your family's needs were met! (If she isn't willing to meet a need, then step in and do it.)

There are others that others might be able to add, but the point is notice this is all about you. What you can do. What you should do.

I know you've struggled with patience, that is why you should concentrate on EACH day. Not the past, not what might happen in the future. But simply striving each day to achieve the above."

Something like this could be VERY helpful to me. I am a VERY task oriented person. I am going to try to follow these daily.

Focus on what you said about being VERY task oriented. Concentrate on getting through the day with 1, 2, 3, and 4.