You have handled yourself exceptionally, you should be proud. You are walking a good path in the midst of a horrible storm. Keep standing tall, leading the way, and being a beacon for your kids.
W’s logic in regard to S10 and the two other kids is staggering. She seems determined, for some unknown reason, to separate them. I mean really they play in seperate rooms - crazy!
I do understand your fear or anxiety when she is in monster mode. It is so very hard to understand and not feel responsible. Remember she is projecting her feelings on to you, do not internalize her blaming you. Just turn around anything she is saying, exchange you for I in her tirade and you will get an idea of what is really going on. She cannot accept any blame she must project it, she just can’t be wrong. It is really quite sad.
Your questioning of karma towards yourself and your past is very normal. I am sure you are getting lots of it is not your fault advice - I’ll try not to pile on more (but it is not your fault ). To me it looks like you are working towards something very healing and healthy - forgiving yourself. (((marina7))) That is a great journey, with a great destination.
Your BD was pretty similar to mine. And yes, most people just can’t believe something like that can happen. I think your therapist does understand and believes, that is very good.
You asked for advice from anyone having been through this.
marina you are doing great. My advice, which you have already been following:
Stay consistent, be honest, walk the higher path, treat her with compassion, work on understanding, find forgiveness.
The stepping stones along the way - detachment, letting go, etc... you know and are finding.
You really are doing great. Keep protecting kids and yourself. Keep moving forward.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
). To me it looks like you are working towards something very healing and healthy - forgiving yourself. (((marina7))) That is a great journey, with a great destination.