I never wanted the marriage to end and was willing to do anything to save it. But I spent the past 9 months convincing myself that it was over and started focusing on all his negatives as a self preservation mechanism. To some extent it worked. I don't know how to bounce back, even though I want to. And if I am to follow DB approach, how do I handle this latest turn of events? I think I need to tell him that I won't put up with being manipulated. I refuse to go back on the roller coaster. I also want to tell him what I want from a marriage and if he can't provide those things then I'm fine with a divorce. But will all that scare him away?
