I originally posted about my situation back in 2015. I read Michelle's books, been following forums from the sidelines, worked with a coach, and went to therapy with my husband. Short story - We were married 28 years when I discovered his affair with a younger woman. He moved out 3 years ago. During this time, we tried off and on to work on things, but his heart was never really into it (even though for some time we continued to sleep together - there is a huge physical attraction). Last Christmas, I'd had enough and said I was done. I pretty much cut off all contact except for conversations related to the kids and house. We saw each other a few times at family events. A few months ago, I asked him about proceeding with the divorce and he said to leave things status quo. This is perfectly fine with me as he pays for everything (I control all the accounts) and I get free health insurance. As far as I know, he is still seeing the other woman. And I've been going on with my life. Traveled, starting trying to date, all in all doing much better and starting to think I'm better off without him. (Although I still think about him frequently.) Well... the other day he came over to pick up some stuff before an overseas trip and gave me a huge passionate kiss. I asked what he was doing and he said he wanted to kiss me since he was going away and would see me when he returns. I'm floored. Is it possible that my version of the Last Resort worked? I don't know what to do. I've often thought about whether or not I could possibly take him back - but I don't think he has what it takes to actually work on things and make me feel special. On the other hand, I haven't had much luck meeting anyone else. I'm afraid to sleep with him as it will open up old wounds. I also feel he's playing with my emotions. I'd love suggestions for how to proceed when he returns. Thanks!
