Thank you. I have been talking to a therapist and the only person I talk to when I feel like it as I am an extreme introvert and also a super INFP is my sister. She knows the whole ordeal. The thing is she also still talks to my H and is also using her as an emotional verbal crutch and she also sympathizes with him because he is alone without family and friends so far away coming to terms with the fact that he doesn’t want this marriage anymore. I can understand the loneliness he feels. Or I can empathize with it anyways. He doesn’t talk to anyone else other than his other friend who went through a recent separation (not sure if they’re divorced) who strayed and got into a full blown relationship with someone else during his marriage which is disconcerting.
Other than that, I was talking to my bf in the beginning who is also separated (geesh!) initially when it hit the fan and I was in the prime of my angry state but I stopped because I think she’s been telling other people who are asking (also close friends). Another person who knows we are separated although I don’t divulge information to is my cousin. She just said that our relationship has run it’s course and I hesitantly disagreed because I am a firm believer that marriage is work and work that both parties should want to do because it’s a commitment.
I just want to come out and say when I’m ready. I’m still replaying things in my head and I’m not emotionally stable enough to look everyone in the eye and not bawl my eyes out.
I am 30 and H is 36.
Together: 11 years M: 5 No kids D Bomb: Aug 2018 S: Aug 2018
