I just ordered the DR book online and should receive it tomorrow although I have been doing a lot of research and paroozing through the DB site on Sandi’s rules and detachment, reading a lot of forums and threads.
I haven’t contacted H since Oct 3rd and he was the last to contact me two days ago of which I responded that I was fine since he’s been checking up on me by text a few times last week and took me a few days to finally respond.
In some ways I think the distance works in my favour but in some other ways, I feel like it’s out of sight out of mind type of deal because we have already been physically apart for so long. The last response was courteous and brief and pretty much told him that if he wanted to contact me it should be through email only (I deleted the text messaging app shortly after our verbal conversation).
I didn’t want to leave him even with all the problems we had before he left because there was a lot of good that I valued on a daily basis. He was close to my family which means a lot to me, and even though we were sexually inactive at times (sometimes a very long time), we played a lot. By play I mean, I’m super playful and we always did stupid teenage type things of chasing each other around and stuff. We got into these regular occurrences of obsessions, like him getting obsessed with building things and I help, or me sewing and learning how to knit and him trying to learn it with me. Kisses in the morning, kisses goodnight. Just the simple stuff.
Years go by though, he was immersed with his field of work and we just became partners and roommates even when I had addressed it and initiated a bunch of things to change and spice things up. I started to let go and was less inclined to show affection more and more.
Together: 11 years M: 5 No kids D Bomb: Aug 2018 S: Aug 2018
