Just got in from my pretend dinner (where I actually when to see a therapist). H was just finishing putting the girls to bed and when he came out i thanked him for watching the girls for me and walked him straight to the door. He asked me how my night was ("it was nice thanks") but didnt pry any further. He then said he'd be around Friday to take my car to the garage as he had booked an appointment to have it serviced. He remembered it was due when he was cleaning it today.
Firstly, go me for being all casual and ok (on the outside) with the situation. And secondly ... WTF .,, you abandoned me, are seeing other women (possibly starting a relationship with one) but u think its ok to clean my car and book it in to be serviced. He also said he might come round tomorrow and spend some time with the girls of he finishes work early,
I really need to sort those boundaries but im afraid of how he will react. I read on another thread that we dont set boundaries because we fear they'll react and the D conversation will come up again. I think, for me, that's prob true. But we are pretty much D'd already so I am no worse off, right. My brain gets it. My heart, not sl much.
On the Friday thing - he told me he was fostered Friday and couldnt see the girls. When he mentioned picking up my car Friday i said "thought u were working" he ummed for a bit, looked confused and then said, oh, I probably got that wrong because Im going out Friday night. I assume with her.
