I just found this, you wrote it on Justsad's posts recently, "Here are what your daily goals should be:
1) Did I get through the day without worrying about what she says and does, and without attaching any expectations to your DBing efforts. 2) That no one filed for D (unless this is what you want, and you can always decide to pull the plug at any moment). 3) That you didn't engage in any pressure or pursuit. In word or deed. That you didn't engage her in a R talk. That you didn't snoop. Etc. 4) That the rest of your family's needs were met! (If she isn't willing to meet a need, then step in and do it.)
There are others that others might be able to add, but the point is notice this is all about you. What you can do. What you should do.
I know you've struggled with patience, that is why you should concentrate on EACH day. Not the past, not what might happen in the future. But simply striving each day to achieve the above."
Something like this could be VERY helpful to me. I am a VERY task oriented person. I am going to try to follow these daily.
