WW still won’t address the elephant in the room, which is her A.
I imagine your D is more hurt over your W abandoning her then she is the A itself. I mean reducing their communication to texting is W inadvertently telling her "I don't even care enough about you to try to talk to you face-to-face." My ex left me and had an OM, but the difference is both of us sat down with the kids and explained to them that while our M was in trouble, we both still loved them very much and would both continue to support them as parents no matter what. We were united for the kids even through an affair, separation and D. The kids were definitely depressed and frustrated about us breaking up, but I don't think they ever felt anger or resentment towards either of us.
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but at the same time, WW doesn’t understand that what she’s doing is disrespectful as well. IC is really trying to mend the R between the two of them. but unless WW stops, D14 will just keep on doing what she’s doing.
As hard as this may sound, you need to do everything in your power to encourage D to accept the olive branch from W and try to help her understand that W is going through difficult times as well. You probably think your W "deserves" all of this and maybe she does, but D doesn't and she is the one that is really being hurt.
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she can’t talk to D14 personally because she’s scared of what D14 has to say and at the same time, D14 knows that all she going to say are lies.
Maybe, maybe not. You really don't know and that is mind-reading. You should do everything you can to encourage them to communicate and not assume you already know the outcome. It will be tough for them at first but eventually they will make peace.
Originally Posted by Steve85
My D15 and I used to be really close. We hunted together, she'd go up to the property with me and work on the property, she was a camo-wearing, tomboy that wanted to be just like daddy. In the last year she has turned. It is as if she can't stand me. Wants nothing to do with the activities above. It hurts so bad. It hurts so much worse than when I almost lost my W.
Sorry to hear that Steve, but please don't blame yourself. Most girls go through this around her age, both of my D's did as well. In general girls tend to draw close to their dads when they are young and then flip to being closer to their moms in their mid-teens. It's a natural transition that is part of them growing up.
