just hanging 2 - help with WW

[SteveLW]

TN, understood. I just know how painful it is for a child to mistreat a parent. I did nothing to deserve it. Have I been perfect? No. Too be honest, a lot of the things she is upset with me about are the 180s I instituted after BD.

I no longer harp on my wife and her for spending money. My D has actually said, "why aren't you yelling at us for spending money? We are going to go broke!" LOL This isn't true, we are doing fine, but it shows you how she is reacting to one of my 180s.

I no longer criticize my W for the housework not getting done. My D has mentioned this.

I no longer come home from work in a foul mood. My D has mentioned this.

it is as if she doesn't believe my 180s, and therefore she is punishing me for the behavior prior to th 180. Kind of like "I don't care how well you are behaving now, I can't forgive you for the behavior before." At least that seems to be it. Yeah, I am mind reading. LOL

You W and D's relationship will outlast this A. And your current sitch. And I am just afraid your D is doing irreparable harm to it, at such a young age, that she will regret later in life.