toenail, I do not find it funny. Even if your WW deserves this, it is awful to have a bad relationship with a child.
My D15 and I used to be really close. We hunted together, she'd go up to the property with me and work on the property, she was a camo-wearing, tomboy that wanted to be just like daddy. In the last year she has turned. It is as if she can't stand me. Wants nothing to do with the activities above. It hurts so bad. It hurts so much worse than when I almost lost my W.
Do all you can to encourage your D14 to make amends with her mom. H and W is a voluntary relationship. Parent child is not, and it is for life.
thanks steve.
everyday when D14 wakes up, before i drop her off to school, when i pick her up, before dinner, before she goes to bed i always remind her to at least send s simple “hi” as a text message to WW. if i was purely evil and vindictive, WW would not even see a strand of her hair.
sending D14 to IC was my idea, not only so she can come out of this sitch, better but to rebuild her R with WW. i work nights, and WW comes home to spend th night with her.no communication happens in those hours that they’re both left alone. once they did, couple of weeks ago, after WW never even said a word to D14 or sent a text message for a longest time, and it ended yelling and screaming for WW. asking D14 if she wants her to be a part of her life . so that was it for D14.she has given up in having a convo with WW.
we can all say D14 is still young, but in the end her own actions and feelings are hers alone. i cannot change that, IC cannot change that, surely WW cannot change that. believe you me, i know that a non existing dynamic between D and M hurts D14. but for D14 to make amends, am sorry, she has heard, seen, read, basically she was a witness to WW’s waywardness.
the reason i find it funny is because, D14 isn’t asking for the moon. she’s not even asking WW to have an R with me. all she’s asking is to stop her A. and WW is trying to hard to hide her A from her. so much so as to saying to D14,” my personal life has nothing to do with you.” or the famous “‘we are not together, we just hangout”.
i would really love to take myself out the equation between the two of them. but i take care of D14, we’re both staying at our home, and WW is having fun with her waywardness. but once D14 starts talking to me about her feelings, about her thoughts, i cannot ignore them. i can tell her to wait and talk or call he IC, in the end she trusts me more than anyone else, for now.
