In my experience the key is to figure out what they are looking for. Some just want to hook up, others just want some attention, and others are actually looking for a relationship. In my opinion if you click, have chemistry, the feelings are mutual, and your both on the same time table/looking for the same things it is pretty hard to mess those situations up.
Honestly, I'm just starting to figure out what it is that *I* want. I've known I wanted something, and now it's coming into view. Maybe that's why I'm starting to have these dates where I actually feel something. I still get put off by people who say in their profiles they're looking to marry. How intimidating is that?
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On the issue of scheduling Wednesday dinner, I allowed it this one time, since in times where we can't come to an agreement, the decree should be our guide (and the decree says Wednesday). For the future I asked XW to give me 7 days' notice for changes to dinner. She responded by thanking me, telling me she'll be sure we stick to the decree (yeah right), and then she proceeded to chide me for not responding soon enough to her messages (I respond within a day), not keeping the calendar up to date (not sure where that comes from), and being a generally poor co-parent. I didn't respond.
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Last night I saw XMIL and XFIL at my son's orchestra concert. I haven't seen them in a year. I went up and told them hi. XFIL smiled at me and shook my hand. I turned to XMIL and got a weird vibe from her, so I shook her hand. This was a woman who I always hugged and kissed. That was SO WEIRD. To be expected I suppose.
Also, I've noticed XW has a new tattoo on her wrist. It's a semicolon, which is a symbol for those who've overcome suicide. I feel bad for my kids if they ever look up what that means - S16 may already have. I get that she wants to play the victim (so amusing since she caused all this), but why would anyone want to voluntarily wear a scarlet letter? And what guy is going to see that tattoo and decide to get involved with a bag of cats?
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
