OK haven't been here for awhile. Been trying to focus on myself and not dwell too much in negativity. Since starting this process 7 months ago I have gotten a job, worked on a bunch of long term creative projects, hung out with more friends then in the last 8 years, seen a shrink, overcame my fear of flying, beat my depression and anxiety, spend 45 days in LA, got a tattoo, totally changed my diet started doing Yoga daily, lost 60 lbs and am in the best shape of my life.I started drinking for about a month after 11 years of sobriety but quickly took control of that and have happily gone back to my sober life. The downside is that I have had to replace my entire wardrobe...ok not a downside at all I look great! Also accidently got a terrible haircut where all my long hair was cut off...but this too was a blessing as I look great with short hair and no longer fat and hiding behind it. Not too shabby I must say I look great and I feel great!
My WW has from what people tell me been doing drugs and hanging out with 21 year olds (she is 34) and displayed manic tendancies. No mention or evidence of OM?
I hope she finds whatever she is looking for.
After returning from LA I submitted my paperwork for the D and went into No Contact. 30 days to the day she reached out to me and we met. Short 30 min meal where she was under the weather and I was put on the spot to entertain...pretty uneventful meeting but civil and mellow. I said it was nice to see her and she agreed and I went on my way and resumed no contact. She ended up following me on social media 2 weeks later and I followed back. 45 days later I reached out with a text about something funny I had seen she would enjoy and she did and we texted briefly about it and back to no contact. Final divorce papers came last week and I signed them (it is a no contest). Received email from her Lawyer that they are going to the court Thurs morning to finalize D. Needless to say I am very disappointed, I still love my W and really thought things could be worked out. Very disappointed that she didn't even try. What now?
Last edited by job; 10/10/1812:40 AM. Reason: added link to previous thread
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18