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[Jlh]

Ryan, I don't have much for advice since I'm going through a rough time with my own H and his issues, but do listen to everyone here on the detaching and taking care of yourself. At first I thought, "Yeah right, how the heck will that help me, I'm heartbroken and miserable." But it honestly does help YOU to become stronger and you learn about yourself in so many ways.

I've gotten a new job after years of being a SAHM, I volunteer at my son's school, I picked up old hobbies and I don't try to diagnose my H's issues anymore. I've caught up with old friends and found an incredible support system online and off with with my various friends. It was driving me crazy worrying about what H did until I just stopped caring as much and day by day I find myself moving forward with my son and spending less time worrying about how H feels. I did notice that the happier I get and happier I am with my life, the more he seems miserable and angry. I've stopped worrying about him, although his rudeness irks me. I cant fix him like I thought I could and I am fixing myself and trust me, if I can do this after it finally sunk into my stubborn head, you can do it too.

There are great people here that have great advice. It may feel like what they say is impossible to do but they are on the ball and are so awesome. ((hugs))