Well, the second date never happened. I had been trying to play it cool and not text too much. Frankly I was sitting on my hands all week. Maybe I went too far, as it had been several days since the last text. On the morning of the date, I texted "see you tonight!".
She came back with something along the lines of "we haven't talked, and I have plans to get a facial, I wasn't going to sit at home alone". So I was thinking she's got some kind of image of herself as someone who's too good to be at home, and maybe also expects me to do all the work in terms of carrying on the R. I took a break for 2 days, and really considered sending a goodbye text, but a friend in my NGS group convinced me not to give up so easily since the chemistry was so good.
I reached out to her over the weekend via text and said I thought we had a great in-person chemistry, and I'd like to see her again. I could see how maybe we had different concepts of what a commitment entails, and I'd make sure we had firm plans.
She responded saying she agreed we had good in-person chemistry, but she needed more text interaction in her Rs, since that's what keeps the R going between the face-to-face times. I said I'd be happy to text more, and reciprocation is important to me since I don't want either of us to do all the lifting. She responded "Exactly!" We agreed on a time next Sunday for our next date.
But since then, I texted her Sunday night and Monday night, and she hasn't responded to my texts. It's starting to feel like she wants me to do all the work, and maybe she's expecting these "Good Morning, beautiful!" texts from me, which ain't gonna happen if she can't respond to a simple question. A few friends have said she sounds like a narcissist, and believe me, I've had enough of that for the last 20 years.
I don't know. I don't think it should be this complicated in the beginning. I'm giving it a few days. The ball's in her court now.
Next up, back to the XW...
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
