Not sure "doormat" is the right word there, but you're right, you cannot mend the problems between the two of them. W is blaming you and she's blaming D, but she seems to think she has no part in it which obviously isn't the case. And unfortunately that is typical WAS behavior, everyone else is to blame. I mean holy hell, "I tried to text her and she doesn't reply, and when she does it's hurtful and disrespectful." Well which is it, she doesn't reply, or she replies but it's mean? It can't be both. And for crying out loud, TEXTING???????? THIS IS HOW SHE TRIES TO COMMUNICATE WITH HER HURTING D?????? It's aggravating. Kudos to you for trying but I would pull back at this point and hope that the IC can have an impact.
thanks for dropping by AS.
WW still won’t address the elephant in the room, which is her A. D14 is angry about it, hence the disrespectful tone. but at the same time, WW doesn’t understand that what she’s doing is disrespectful as well. IC is really trying to mend the R between the two of them. but unless WW stops, D14 will just keep on doing what she’s doing.
i try to take myself out of the equation, but knowing how much damage we are doing to D14, i try my best to at least make it easy for D14 to go through with the family sitch.
like the comment about texting. yup! after all the hurt WW has done to D14, texting is the only form of communication WW can extend. she can’t talk to D14 personally because she’s scared of what D14 has to say and at the same time, D14 knows that all she going to say are lies.
