At the start of the day I was told that W had missed the deadline to make a statement for the next custody case but my legal person and her's have agreed to extend the deadline (so I can make changes to mine).
Tonight I had to meet W at the school to speak to teachers together. Her demeanour had totally changed to be more normal and more humble. She was extremely well dressed. I was stunned to see that youngest had drawn a pic in a school book of going to where she now lives with W with a caption saying it was the 'worst day of my life'. I showed it to W. In a calm voice I said to W that I knew she had done a lot of bad things. She denied it. I said there's no point denying it. W then said she would feel uncomfortable about going back. She then said uncomfortable wasn't the right word but then couldn't find the right word. I joked saying because she resents and hates me. She insisted that she didn't, which seems odd considering that she certainly has been like that for a long time.
W said there's no chance of us having a relationship but she wants to talk about us getting along better due to the kids (nope, I'm not going to be friend-zoned). I said I had been reading a book (that's a 180) and it explains the problems we had in a way I hadn't realised. She said that perhaps she'd better read it too (that's a 180 for her to admit she isn't perfect).
W then said a few things that supported me in front of the kids (that's a 180 for her). W raised the issue of new mobile phones for the kids (they already want better ones) and she said to the kids that she would speak to me about it. I said I know she has already told the kids they are to have new ones and when.
At the end she turned and said "we'll talk soon" in a kind of positive, but soft and understanding way.
I don't know why but W seemed a lot different tonight. It had been our anniversary days before, perhaps she senses that I'd had enough and had called out her BS. I'm also asking for her to supply her full financial details that should expose what she's done, we are both going to be doing a course about the impact of S on kids, the kids are with me, it was at the school, W is feeling ill, all but 1 of her friends now has a partner. I'm now doing well with GAL, looking after the kids on my own, and 180s. I am getting there, I think I'll be OK whatever, it's the kids I worry about more than myself. It was like her alien fog had gone and she was almost sorry. I think it's over and she's moved on but on the other-hand she's finding it tough being without the kids and her BS has come-undone. Something I've noticed is that W changes a lot for the better when FiL isn't staying with her.
It still sticks in my mind that after W left, she said that I'd never be able to trust her ever again. I hadn't known why at the time. She then arranged for family days out together and tried to create arguments to use against me. I wonder if I'm being set-up again. She's right, I can't trust her.
