I'm sort of betting in the end she will end up cheating on him as well, because that seems to be her pattern. It may take a while, for the infatuation stage to pass and the disillusionment to set in. But it won't surprise me if it happens.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Hey...the ex-OW in my case ended up engaged to someone else within months of my ex-b going to go see her. I knew she wasn't planning to be with him, it was more of getting what someone else wanted for a brief period of time (and using him).
It's possible that is the same with Janice. You want him, she now wants him. Eventually she'll get tired of that.
Hi Pam - Weekends are always tougher that days when the need to earn a crust forces us to go out and interact with other folks. I'm at a loss here, don't know what to say that will lessen your hurt. All I can think of is to send you my very warmest thoughts, and pray your week is a good one, with lots of positive boosts. You are such a support to the rest of us, as I'm sure you can tell from the care coming your way. Hugs, Slowly
Quote: Guess I should have known better than to expect he would do what he said he would do. He sucks at that, just gives someone an answer he thinks they want to hear and has no intentions of actually doing it.
Haven't been on the boards at all for a couple of weeks...not a decision, just a daily thing..
Been real busy ending the school year (exams, grades etc) and starting up my spring course which commences tomorrow morning. CJ's older brother's had a heart attack, my best pal was diagnosed with an auto-immune disorder...CJ's also started a part time job teaching software usage to groups of adults.
It was our 12th anniversary yesterday and we not only had a nice day and a fabulous dinner, but CJ surprised me with a sapphire bracelet to match the necklace he bought for my birthday.
About the only thing still lacking, and in a BIG way, is our sex life....sigh...nothing on that front.
As for signing in to the BB, I'll just have to see how this week pans out. I might have some late night time to spare.
You and CHL have been on my mind and in my prayers....especially on the 27th. Ditto for lots of my bb pals...Sage, kk, Tal, Cathy, everyone. Please say hi for me, or even copy and post this e-mail.
Take good care of yourself,
Shiny
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Sorry I haven't posted much to you. Spent the morning trying to catch up!
It was hard for me to come and read your thread since I seem to be following in your footsteps .
That is good that you get to stay there until the house sells. Someone had told me that about our home. Half of my house payments would be $194, so I can afford that. Who has to keep up the repair? Roof needs fixing here, also plumbing and the furnice is aweful.
I too will be asking for health insurance because of my disease. My H already has taken A LOT of stuff through the last year. There is not much to give him!
I'm hoping for maintence, don't know how much or for how long though. It was good that you and D could do the settlement together. Wish we could. My H would want his retirement and thats not going to happen so why sit down with him and try. Wish I could though...
Too bad we can't give them the memories and they could take them with.
Quote: I feel this way about my H--that I love him more now, even after all we've been through this last year. It's not the needy kind of love it was before, it's unconditional.
I have to totally agree with you two! My love for my H has changed too. He told me he doesn't feel the same way about me; I hope not!
As for D, from what I read; he will NOT be happy with J! I don't know why in the world he is even thinking of M her! Because I read between the lines. Sounds to me like he is jumping into the fire.
It won't work out between them, if that is any consulation. I'm sure the same will happen to my STBX. They will find getting a D only makes them more unhappy. They think they have found the answer to happiness, when they only found a new kind of hell.
((((Hugs))))
I just went through a stage last night, not a good one. But I know except those stages. They won't last, it's only a part of the journey!
It's a good time to start cleaing that house. You'll be able to work off some of the frustration. So get busy!
Don't worry about D and J. I agree with Deb about that.
Look at my sitch. H won't file for D, is "engaged' to ow and has no intention of marrying her. She is planning a wedding in the fall, we have reservations for a ride then, so .... guess he'll stand her up at the alter!
I think we need to write a soap opera!!! We would have so many story lines, it would never be dull!
Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
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