Are you saying that there were no relational issues, and she has given no reason for wanting a divorce, other than being apart did not cause her to miss you?
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So far, I have been overly sensitive to her state and not put my foot down on anything. However, this is another reason I think I need to proceed thinking there is no hope. It might give me a backbone.
I think I just discovered the source of the problem. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
No. I'm not saying our relationship was perfect. I think I focused on the kids too much and not enough on her. I also had an on again/off again chewing habit. I think it's where I lost her trust, to be honest. I'd quit for her, but then start up again behind her back. Ironically, I quit on August 1st (10 days before she told me she wanted a divorce), and I haven't chewed since. And I honestly think I never will again. I don't want it to be a source of problems in future relationships.
But I agree with the source of the problem. I was an alpha male before I met my W, but my W is a dominant mare. I'm not sure I ever told her no. I did not lead enough. She didn't really give me a lot of room to lead, but I still should have done it.
