Wait months to tell your kids? That's not good. Plus you'd drop the bomb on the during the holidays? I am missing something?
I wouldn't lie to them and tell them it was mutual either.
I agree with this. My H still doesn't understand why I had to tell the kids now since we have only agreed to a temporary separation up to 2 months. I felt is was important not to blind-side them. Whenever I see them, they always ask about their dad...why didn't he come, what is he doing that day. I couldn't lie. They will now have time to prcess this and it will be easier to handle (but NOT easy!) if my H wants a divorce. I also told the kids (S21 and D19) that I love their dad and don't want a divorce (truth), but I could not speak for dad and if they had any questions for him they should contact him. I'm hoping this was all the right thing to do. S did speak with him yesterday, but I didn't ask what was discussed.
