Sorry I was busy, but I like to leave a message to you, please take care of yourself and try to focus on you first. I know there are so much things come and go in your head right now, it is pretty normal... I know it seems impossible, but please start to get a life, to do the things for yourself mainly !
I recall that it is not encouraged to ask husband moving out, they are deep in the crisis, if he is not moving, don't force him. Knowing it is very difficult to live with the monster under the same roof right now. I pray our Lord would lead you and strenthens you.
My heart was broken when he told me he want to move out, I try to reason with him, I urge him to stay, non of them works, he said he needs time and space (they really do). After he moved out, that was 10 months after bomb dropped. I start to pull myself all together. I live alone, I went to church alone, I worked as volunteer alone. Later I found peach. I started language lessons that I always want to. It is not easy for me to live alone after all we've been together over ten years. I can not stop his crisis, I could not fix him but God can, so, I leave him to God.
Instead of ask him out, why not focus on you ? Do no seize on praying, the whole process takes time, you will survive !!